From The Archives: How To Be Your Boss's Wingwoman

From The Archives: How To Be Your Boss's Wingwoman

Last week, we hosted a career bootcamp on Creating Strategic Alliances at work. Alliances are important because, when done well, they can lead to increased visibility, promotions, mentoring, and simply having someone in your corner advocating for you when the going gets tough.* 

*One of the most key people to have in your corner is your boss.

Don't Waste My Time

Don't Waste My Time

Wasted time and distractions are silent killers. Let me break this down like a perm: you know the moments when Facebook pops up with memories from like eight years ago, and you’re reminded of how much time you gave that person that you will never get back? Often, I flashback to the people, places, and things I gave entirely too much of my good energy to. (And most of them, didn’t serve 60 seconds of my time.) Time spent begging folks to stay, asking folks to leave, or being mad at your boss…

Negotiation Tips for Your Next Performance Review

Negotiation Tips for Your Next Performance Review

As we move into the end of the year, many of you will be having your annual assessments at work. Your annual assessment is a great time to review your performance over the past year, discuss your goals for the upcoming year, and perhaps more importantly is often the perfect time to negotiate for yourself! Read more to learn how to make your next negotiation a win-win.

From The Archives: Now You're Staring At A Queen

From The Archives: Now You're Staring At A Queen

How many times do we get in our own heads about our worthiness? Or maybe instead you had/have someone if your life that has indicated that you weren’t capable of doing this or that. Doubt can be self inflicted or brought on by external factors. Either way....STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF!

Take The First Step

Take The First Step

Earlier this summer, I wrote What Do You Have To Lose? Many of you reached out directly to let me know that the article resonated (it even encouraged some of you to pick up and move to a new city!).

Sometimes we need a little push or some encouragement to help us cross the finish line. We were never meant to crush our career goals alone--we need a community to root us on!

Can I Live?

Can I Live?

The word authentic is defined as “of undisputed origin.” How amazing is this definition? 

Many of us have been deemed as underserved because of the color of our skin or our socioeconomic background, yet, in the same breath we're asked to bring our authentic selves to work. In other words, we are asked for authenticity, but just as long as it fits neatly in the box the company has provided.

From The Archives: The Memo's "Always Ready" Toolkit

From The Archives: The Memo's "Always Ready" Toolkit

How ready are you for your next big career opportunity? If the person who could change your life offered you a shot at your dream career right now, would you be ready

You need to be prepared for what comes next, even if you aren’t certain what that next opportunity looks like. 

Here are a few tips to make sure you #stayready...

The Mentor Match

The Mentor Match

Often, I receive emails from young women asking me to serve as their mentor.** I remember what it’s like being their age, admiring so many women from afar, and wanting to tap into their magic. Heck, there are many women *today* that I consider mentors in my mind. They have no idea who I am (yet) -- I admire their business acumen and the way they choose to show up in the world. Sometimes we are lucky enough to connect with our role models, and other times we have to take notes from afar. (In our careers, we should all strive to be *both* mentors and mentees!) There are times I am not able to meet with everyone face to face who reaches out to me, but I try to make myself available via some medium. 

Today, I want to share answers to the top five questions I receive around mentor and mentee relationships.

#WOCAffirmations

#WOCAffirmations

Thousands of women of color showed up and showed out on Twitter, with #WOCAffirmations, affirming not only themselves, but other women of color too! It was like Christmas in October to see so many women of color amplifying their voice and the voices of others. At some point in my day, I even used the hashtag! 
 

No Shame In The Confidence Game

No Shame In The Confidence Game

You know the feeling – some days you feel unstoppable, and other days you feel lke you have no idea what you’re doing. The trick, though, is to not let the bad days suck up all of our confidence. Once our confidence is shaken, it can be difficult to get back on track.

Whether you want to reignite your confidence at work or just be more confident in life, here are a few tips to get your inner Beyoncé back...

From The Archives: Networking Like A Pro

From The Archives: Networking Like A Pro

Networking is one of those words that can bring a smile to one’s face or seem like a chore. People tell me, “You are so good at networking and making new friends, how do you it?” Here are 3 sure fire tips to help you navigate your personal and professional network.
 

ICYMI: After 6, Body Image In The Workplace

Last week, we hosted our monthly After 6: Career Conversations event online. 

This month, we partnered with Dressing Room 8 -- an organization that empowers women through fashion and coaching -- to talk about Body Image in the Workplace. It was a dynamic panel conversation, with professional women from a variety of industries -- Education, the Arts, Development, Law, Entrepreneurship, and Fashion -- and the conversation got really real.

Are You Ready or Reactive?

Are You Ready or Reactive?

...It's just like in your career -- what would you do if your career went from zero to 100--real quick? You know...When your boss sends you an email saying, they need you take over this huge meeting tomorrow, because they can’t make it. Or your colleague can no longer go on the senior staff trip to Europe, and suggests that you go in her place.  Would you be ready or reactive? There is a major difference between the two. 

"They Don't Mean Any Harm"

"They Don't Mean Any Harm"

There has been a lot of discussion around sexual harassment in the workplace. Many women in the tech industry have come forward to share their stories of investors crossing the line. Unfortunately, I know that so many women have dealt with unwanted advances at some point in their lives. I happened to know one of the women who recently told her story in the New York Times. I remember looking on Twitter - there were women applauding her, women criticizing her, and women who stayed out of the conversation entirely. There is a lot of stigma around “telling your truth. 

Like many of us, I have encountered unwanted advances in the workplace, and there were so many times I tried to sweep those advances under the rug or convinced myself they "didn’t mean any harm!" 
 

Influential Women of Color

With so many influential people – good and bad -- in the world today, we mustn’t forget about those special women who have fought long and hard to advance so many others. We can get distracted with so much that is going on in the world, and we might feel there is not much we can do to enact change. 

Here's a list of influential women of color who have changed the game (and who continue to change the game) for all of us. Here’s hoping their stories guide your brain waves to the awesomeness these brilliant women are radiating. 
 

From The Archives: Job Searching For The Gainfully Employed

From The Archives: Job Searching For The Gainfully Employed

Let’s face it, no one likes applying for jobs; it’s intimidating, labor-intensive, and tends to draw on our deepest insecurities-so obviously we only throw ourselves into the competitive fighting pits when we have to. But that’s also why the best time to look for jobs is when you don’t have to, while you're gainfully employed.
 

ICYMI: After 6 with Amanda Seales of HBO's Insecure

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If you missed last week's After 6, the FOMO was real.

We had the pleasure of talking with actress, comedian, and producer, Amanda Seales. Miss Seales dropped some serious gems on us, and answered all of your questions.

In case you missed it, we've got you covered. Watch below as Seales discusses: career longevity, self-worth ("If you can't get the yes from other people, get the yes from within"), the recent events in Charlottesville ("Silence is not an option"), being a better ally by doing your homework (“Don’t come to the barbeque without a dish”), negotiation, her #Sealhive, and people that inspire her. And you definitely do not want to miss her Tiffany Haddish pep talk!

Watch the entire thing below:

You can catch Amanda Seales on Sunday nights on HBO's Insecure, at her live comedy show, Smart, Funny, & Black in Los Angeles, and on her upcoming college stand-up tour.

The Buddy System

The Buddy System

This summer, I traveled to Tokyo. I was on my way to a cafe for breakfast, and saw these two kids (pictured above) killin it on their buddy game! It immediately made me think about "My Buddy and Me" (ha ha), and then it inspired me to share this story with you.

I remember in my early elementary days our teacher introduced “the buddy system.” You had a buddy to hang out with at recess or hold hands with on upcoming field trips. Essentially, you had someone who was supposed to have your back.

From The Archives: "I Did it on My Own"

From The Archives: "I Did it on My Own"

I didn’t start out planning to be a single, working mother. In fact, I grew up imagining a huge family: meeting the man of my dreams in college and getting married soon after; I’d have my first child of five by the time I was 24, and then start my career as a stay-at-home mom. Easy. No worries.

Except, the old adage that life doesn’t usually work out the way we plan… it applies more often than not. 

#BlackWomensEqualPayDay

#BlackWomensEqualPayDay

By definition, the word *invisible* means unable to be seen, or not visible to the eye. 

As a black woman in the workplace, there have been times I have been made to feel invisible. Growing up, so many of us are told we need to work twice as hard to get half as much. 

When I heard this 80 cents number thrown around (research has suggested that women make an average of 80 cents for every dollar a white male makes), I was upset. The more I heard it, though, the more infuriated I became, because it doesn't tell the whole story: this number does not take into account that the average for women of color is often much lower! Women of color need to be included in the salary gap conversation. Point, blank, period! 

Today has been designated as **[Black Women’s Equal Pay Day][1]**. The wage gap is a persistent issues that harms women, the ones they lov