Motivation Monday

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by: The Memo Staff

Happy Monday! What are the goals you are looking to manifest this week? Here are a few things to motivate and encourage you as we move into another week.

1.Women Elected to Congress: Last week, Americans elected over 100 women into Congress! It was a record breaking election season in terms of the number of women running, and the number of women elected to office. It was a night of firsts for so many women in politics, especially for women of color. Check out this Time article to learn more about women who made history. Ladies, we salute you!

2.Winter Reads: One way to help you keep a good work/life balance is reading. A few winter reads that we are vegging out on:

  • An American Marriage by Tayari Jones. This was an Oprah book pick. We promise once you start reading it, you won't want to put it back down.
  • Dare to Lead by Brene Brown. If you are looking for a down to earth leadership book, this book is a MUST read!
  • The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff. This is a quick read and helps you stay centered during all the craziness and breaking news.

3.How to Level Up: Looking for a new job in 2019? Have you joined The Women of Color Equity Initiative? Our hope is to put more women of color in leadership positions by Winter 2019. Join the movement. The database launches at the end of the month.

4.This Ted Talk: In this classic Ted Talk from 2014, art historian Sarah Lewis shares insight about the role of "near wins" in our pathway to success.

5.And Finally, This Video: Posted on Twitter, this video of a little kid saying goodbye to everyone is all the joy we didn't know we needed.

ICYMI: Let Go And Look Forward

ICYMI: Let Go And Look Forward

This weekend, I was thinking a lot about how far I've come along my career path. The person I was at the start of my career almost wouldn't recognize the stronger, more resilient professional that I am becoming. I thought about those situations in my life (personal and professional alike) that, while in them, felt impossible to get through or to let go of. But each of those situations helped to clear a path forward to where I am today.

Intersectionality: How Do We Show Up As Our Full Selves?

Intersectionality: How Do We Show Up As Our Full Selves?

It wasn’t until I was older that I understood the power I had as a woman, and more specifically, the power found in being a black woman. The power I found happened through the words of those before me: Toni Morrison, Maya Angelou, Audre Lorde, and Ntozake Shange all articulated a power I had yet to tap into.

Taking Matters Into Our Own Hands

Taking Matters Into Our Own Hands

Now, I hope that I don’t have to put together a full-on powerpoint presentation on why you should vote in the upcoming election on November 6th: if Kanye West alone hasn’t swayed you, then I don’t know what else to say. The good news about voting is that we get the opportunity to decide what side of history we want to be on, and we get to have a voice in what issues matter to us.

Know Your Worth: Tenia Watson

Know Your Worth: Tenia Watson

We love celebrating women of color that are doing amazing things in their careers! A few years ago, we interviewed Tenia Watson, Supervising Producer for The Real. We talked risk taking, inspiration, and support systems.

What's the Good News?

What's the Good News?

by: The Memo Staff

Happy Monday! After last week, we could all use some good news.

At The Memo, we thought we'd provide just that! Here is some "good news" we found for women of color at work.

Stop the Stigma

Stop the Stigma

Recently, there has been a lot of discussion about sexual harassment, assault, and abuse, specifically in light of the recent sexual assault allegations against Supreme Court Justice nominee, Brett Kavanaugh. Many men and women have been coming forward to tell their stories via the viral hashtag #WHYIDIDNTREPORT. Unfortunately, I know many women and men have dealt with unwanted advances at some point in their lives. Regardless of *when* someone chooses to report abuse that has happened to them (that moment, or 35 years later), every person should be respected and given the liberty to speak their truth in a time frame that is suitable to their needs. Their decision is not up for public consumption. The stigma around “coming forward” is not as easy as some might think. It’s not so simple, to call 911 on someone that you know and love, or to speak up and have no one believe you.

Dealing with Office Mean Girls

Dealing with Office Mean Girls

Most women have dealt with a “mean girl” or two starting from their first day of school. Unfortunately, some of those mean girls grow up to become mean women – and some of those mean women become mean co-workers. In my career thus far, I’ve had the opportunity to work with a lot of amazing women, some of the most caring and intelligent women on the planet. Up until a few years ago, I couldn’t relate to the “mean girl” stories I heard about happening in the workplace… but then it happened to me.

Who Gon' Stop Me Boo?

Who Gon' Stop Me Boo?

My dad played tennis in the Marines, and growing up he took me and my brothers to the park and taught us how to play. This was one of the ways we spent quality time together. Years later, The Williams sisters hit the tennis scene and I remember how excited I was to see two black girls with beads in their hair disrupting the game.

I don’t know if my dad had the same intentions as their father Richard, but one of my brothers did go on to play collegiate tennis. When my youngest brother became the break out star of the Harts kids; he started to invest in his success and planned on going pro.

Are You Ready For Your Seat?

Are You Ready For Your Seat?

Did you know that our CEO, Minda Harts, has a podcast? It's called Secure The Seat, and is in its second season. Secure the Seat is about women of color in the workplace — what does it take to secure a seat at the table, and once you do, how can you bring others along with you?

The Mind Is A Battlefield: From The Archives

The Mind Is A Battlefield: From The Archives

I spend a lot of time flying for work, and overhear a lot of conversations. Not long ago, I overheard a passenger talking about regret, and how it's a silent killer. That statement about regret immediately teleported me to 2013, when I had one of the toughest years in my career to date. I’d made a decision to work somewhere that paid extremely well, but no amount of money had prepared me for how difficult that year would be. When I thought back on it, I felt like I wasn't strong enough, wasn't good enough, and was clearly a bad decision maker. I prayed. I cried. I tried so many things to make myself feel better. I felt like I was the furthest thing from perfect!

When things go wrong or do not go as planned, why is our first instinct to put ourselves down?

Office Best Friends

Office Best Friends

In early July, we hosted our monthly Slack chat and talked about office best friends. It was a good conversation where we talked about the highs and lows of having friends in the office. (If you aren't in our private Slack group, send us an email and we'll add you so you can access that conversation and participate in the next one!)

As a follow up to our conversation in Slack, we asked others about their office best friends, both past and present…

Success Isn't A Solo Sport

Success Isn't A Solo Sport

I am constantly thinking about how to amplify the voices of women of color in the workplace.

The Memo is the foundation, and my upcoming book, The Memo (which comes out in April 2019), and podcast series, Secure The Seat, are other layers of amplification. I not only get the opportunity to tell my story, but I have the privilege of telling stories of other women of color I’ve met over the years and what it was like for them to “lean in.”

Often, I sit back and think, God must really have a sense of humor, because I never saw myself advocating in this way.

Consistency is Key

Consistency is Key

I am a HUGE fan of my local public library. It’s a treasure trove of information and entertainment: there are books, movies, storytimes for kids, language classes, passes to visit local attractions, access to language learning, info for small business owners, author talks, technology classes, and more. I cannot say enough nice things about the library.

Working Moms

Working Moms

Last week, we hosted our monthly After 6: Career Conversations event online. We were joined by three amazing women and mothers - Thaisa Jones, Digital Director at Pennsylvania Insurance, Delores Brown, Cofounder, Agbara Life, Inc, and Nicole Tirado, CEO of Tearado Tech.

Check out the video!

This Is Us

This Is Us

Almost three years ago, I decided I needed something more out of life.

I wanted to lend support to other women striving to obtain their career goals, and I felt like my experiences up to that point would be able to lend a diverse voice to the career development conversation.

I have to be honest, I wasn’t 100 percent sure how I would do this, or what it would look like.

From The Archives: Grace Makes Room For Space

From The Archives: Grace Makes Room For Space

We've all met people who we are certain that we will not like or get along with - based on the clothes they are wearing, how much they remind us of someone else we had a bad experience with, etc. And as women of color, we have stereotypes thrust upon us regularly.

"Grace Makes Room For Space" was one of the most popular articles on our blog from 2016. It speaks to the need for us to not judge a book by its cover, and to allow for the space for others to surprise us.

For those of you who may have missed it, we're republishing it today.

Hope Is Real

Hope Is Real

Recently, I have read several posts that say, “Check on your strong friend.” While well intentioned, personally I don’t like language like this. It causes us to categorize people as strong vs. weak. When it comes to mental health, I don't think you can boil it down to such simplistic terms.

What To Do When You Don't See Options

What To Do When You Don't See Options

Sometimes all the positive self-talk in the world doesn’t change the fact that some situations leave us stuck. During these times, despite how much perspective we try to have, we just can’t help but feel wedged between a rock and a hard place. If you’ve ever found yourself in this position, and chances are if you’re alive and reading this right now you have, then you’ve experienced that sinking feeling of running out of options. Rather than give you a pie-in-the-sky approach to managing those feelings or improving that situation, we have another alternative – surrender to what is.

We are Resilient!

We are Resilient!

If you missed our 2nd Annual Women of Resilience Awards, you missed a beautiful night of "soul food" - our stomachs, our minds, and our souls were nourished. We were inspired by our honorees and by all of the women who shared their Thursday evening with us at Grand Central Tech in New York City.