April 2nd is Equal Pay Day for Women. We know that all women do not make the same for some of the same jobs--but if we keep negotiating and asking, our hope is to get closer to dismantling the wage gap. Recently, Payscale.com released a report and the discrepancy in pay as it pertains to women of color was simultaneously heartbreaking yet not not surprising. Check out their comprehensive report here.
Some of you might not know that I teach a course on Leading Talent Development at NYU Wagner. One of the reasons I decided to add "Professor" next to my name is because I wanted to help influence the next generation of leaders and managers in relation to how they see human capital in the workplace. More importantly, I wanted to reinforce how they should invest in human capital that might not look or identity like they do.
I have come to terms with the fact. that I will never be “Beyonce," and I will always be a “Kelly”.
And I am cool with that--Kelly got coins and access to any room she wants. She is successful in her own right and has secured her seat. As a child you are always told to love the skin you’re in and be yourself. As you get older--adults, your peers and life experiences start to chip away at your self-esteem.
Most women have dealt with a “mean girl” or two starting from their first day of school. Unfortunately, some of those mean girls grow up to become mean women – and some of those mean women become mean co-workers. In my career thus far, I’ve had the opportunity to work with a lot of amazing women, some of the most caring and intelligent women on the planet. Up until a few years ago, I couldn’t relate to the “mean girl” stories I heard about happening in the workplace… but then it happened to me.
Working in groups doesn’t end in school. Depending on the industry you're in, collaborating and working well with others is a prerequisite for being successful.
We all know what a bad teammate looks like, but what qualities make you a good team member?
Here are four tips to make you a better teammate:
Step Up: Have you ever been in a group or committee and someone had to be the “leader…”
One of our core pillars at The Memo is generosity.
We live in a world where most people think, “I gotta get mine” and “It’s all about me.” And yes, the old proverb, “You came in this world alone, you will leave alone” is true.
However, there is a counter-argument for that mentality, and it's what I think we don’t focus enough on: “No [wo]man can be an island.”
A few years ago, one of my mentors told me to stop apologizing so much in the workplace. At first, I was offended, because I thought I was being polite; but looking back--that was one of the best pieces of career advice I’ve ever received! For a week, I counted how many times I said, “I’m sorry,” and I said it so much, I wanted to put a muzzle over my mouth. I noticed the men in my office were rarely apologetic for voicing their point of view. As women--why do we feel the need to explain ourselves or apologize for voicing our opinions? Part of being confident is owning your actions and being authentic!
Here are three videos that do a great job of reminding us to stay strong, confident, and not to participate in a culture that encourages women to feel ashamed of speaking up and owning it!
: http://videos.nymag.com/video/Inside-Amy-Schumer-I-m-Sorry#c=8680372DVZQXJ0MY&t='Inside Amy Schumer': I'm Sorry