We're combing the archives for some of our favorite articles that you may have missed. The following post, The Vocabulary Adjustment, is a reminder that the words we use matter. How we describe an event impacts the way we see it and the way we respond to it. Do you "have to" face another Monday, or do you "get to"? Minda provides tips for reframing our vocabulary and mindset, and originally appeared February, 2017.
Have you ever noticed that your vocabulary can impact your mood? I know that the vocabulary of others can sometimes affect my mood--positively or negatively. Growing up, my parents would often quote the Scripture, “There’s power of life and death in the tongue.” As I get older, I am constantly reminding myself to speak life over every situation, because my words matter!
“The expert at anything was once a beginner.” - Helen Hayes
By: Lauren Broussard, Co-Founder, The Memo
Over the holidays, I came across a beautiful ad from Poland titled “English for Beginners.” The ad is for the popular online Polish auction platform, Allegro. It begins with an elderly man ordering “English For Beginners,” from the platform. We see him through the ad teaching himself English at home, by practicing words aloud and by labeling everything in his house with a Post It note (including his dog).
He practices everywhere you can imagine—in front of the mirror, on the bus, in the tub, or while watching English films. It’s especially humorous and heartwarming when he practices aloud in public. “I love you! You are perfect,” he says while on the bus, seated behind a young woman who turns around in surprise to find him talking to himself with headphones on.
“A lot of women, when they’re young, feel they have very good friends, and find later on that friendship is complicated. It’s easy to be friends when everyone’s 18. It gets harder the older you get, as you make different life choices, as people say in America. A lot of women’s friendships begin to founder. I was interested in why that was, why it’s not possible for a woman to see her friend living differently and just think, Oh, she lives differently.” - Zadie Smith
At the start of the year, I began to think about my relationships. Relationships can get complicated, and as Smith said, sometimes we don’t give each other space to change, or to “live differently.” This led me to think about my relationships with other women. I am fortunate to have so many awesome female friendships.