How many times do we get in our own heads about our worthiness? Or maybe instead you had/have someone if your life that has indicated that you weren’t capable of doing this or that. Doubt can be self inflicted or brought on by external factors. Either way....STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF!
Earlier this summer, I wrote What Do You Have To Lose? Many of you reached out directly to let me know that the article resonated (it even encouraged some of you to pick up and move to a new city!).
Sometimes we need a little push or some encouragement to help us cross the finish line. We were never meant to crush our career goals alone--we need a community to root us on!
The word authentic is defined as “of undisputed origin.” How amazing is this definition?
Many of us have been deemed as underserved because of the color of our skin or our socioeconomic background, yet, in the same breath we're asked to bring our authentic selves to work. In other words, we are asked for authenticity, but just as long as it fits neatly in the box the company has provided.
How ready are you for your next big career opportunity? If the person who could change your life offered you a shot at your dream career right now, would you be ready?
You need to be prepared for what comes next, even if you aren’t certain what that next opportunity looks like.
Here are a few tips to make sure you #stayready...
Often, I receive emails from young women asking me to serve as their mentor.** I remember what it’s like being their age, admiring so many women from afar, and wanting to tap into their magic. Heck, there are many women *today* that I consider mentors in my mind. They have no idea who I am (yet) -- I admire their business acumen and the way they choose to show up in the world. Sometimes we are lucky enough to connect with our role models, and other times we have to take notes from afar. (In our careers, we should all strive to be *both* mentors and mentees!) There are times I am not able to meet with everyone face to face who reaches out to me, but I try to make myself available via some medium.
Today, I want to share answers to the top five questions I receive around mentor and mentee relationships.
Thousands of women of color showed up and showed out on Twitter, with #WOCAffirmations, affirming not only themselves, but other women of color too! It was like Christmas in October to see so many women of color amplifying their voice and the voices of others. At some point in my day, I even used the hashtag!
You know the feeling – some days you feel unstoppable, and other days you feel lke you have no idea what you’re doing. The trick, though, is to not let the bad days suck up all of our confidence. Once our confidence is shaken, it can be difficult to get back on track.
Whether you want to reignite your confidence at work or just be more confident in life, here are a few tips to get your inner Beyoncé back...
Last week, we hosted our monthly After 6: Career Conversations event online.
This month, we partnered with Dressing Room 8 -- an organization that empowers women through fashion and coaching -- to talk about Body Image in the Workplace. It was a dynamic panel conversation, with professional women from a variety of industries -- Education, the Arts, Development, Law, Entrepreneurship, and Fashion -- and the conversation got really real.
...It's just like in your career -- what would you do if your career went from zero to 100--real quick? You know...When your boss sends you an email saying, they need you take over this huge meeting tomorrow, because they can’t make it. Or your colleague can no longer go on the senior staff trip to Europe, and suggests that you go in her place. Would you be ready or reactive? There is a major difference between the two.
There has been a lot of discussion around sexual harassment in the workplace. Many women in the tech industry have come forward to share their stories of investors crossing the line. Unfortunately, I know that so many women have dealt with unwanted advances at some point in their lives. I happened to know one of the women who recently told her story in the New York Times. I remember looking on Twitter - there were women applauding her, women criticizing her, and women who stayed out of the conversation entirely. There is a lot of stigma around “telling your truth.
Like many of us, I have encountered unwanted advances in the workplace, and there were so many times I tried to sweep those advances under the rug or convinced myself they "didn’t mean any harm!"
With so many influential people – good and bad -- in the world today, we mustn’t forget about those special women who have fought long and hard to advance so many others. We can get distracted with so much that is going on in the world, and we might feel there is not much we can do to enact change.
Here's a list of influential women of color who have changed the game (and who continue to change the game) for all of us. Here’s hoping their stories guide your brain waves to the awesomeness these brilliant women are radiating.
Let’s face it, no one likes applying for jobs; it’s intimidating, labor-intensive, and tends to draw on our deepest insecurities-so obviously we only throw ourselves into the competitive fighting pits when we have to. But that’s also why the best time to look for jobs is when you don’t have to, while you're gainfully employed.
If you missed last week's After 6, the FOMO was real.
We had the pleasure of talking with actress, comedian, and producer, Amanda Seales. Miss Seales dropped some serious gems on us, and answered all of your questions.
In case you missed it, we've got you covered. Watch below as Seales discusses: career longevity, self-worth ("If you can't get the yes from other people, get the yes from within"), the recent events in Charlottesville ("Silence is not an option"), being a better ally by doing your homework (“Don’t come to the barbeque without a dish”), negotiation, her #Sealhive, and people that inspire her. And you definitely do not want to miss her Tiffany Haddish pep talk!
Watch the entire thing below:
You can catch Amanda Seales on Sunday nights on HBO's Insecure, at her live comedy show, Smart, Funny, & Black in Los Angeles, and on her upcoming college stand-up tour.
This summer, I traveled to Tokyo. I was on my way to a cafe for breakfast, and saw these two kids (pictured above) killin it on their buddy game! It immediately made me think about "My Buddy and Me" (ha ha), and then it inspired me to share this story with you.
I remember in my early elementary days our teacher introduced “the buddy system.” You had a buddy to hang out with at recess or hold hands with on upcoming field trips. Essentially, you had someone who was supposed to have your back.
I didn’t start out planning to be a single, working mother. In fact, I grew up imagining a huge family: meeting the man of my dreams in college and getting married soon after; I’d have my first child of five by the time I was 24, and then start my career as a stay-at-home mom. Easy. No worries.
Except, the old adage that life doesn’t usually work out the way we plan… it applies more often than not.
By definition, the word *invisible* means unable to be seen, or not visible to the eye.
As a black woman in the workplace, there have been times I have been made to feel invisible. Growing up, so many of us are told we need to work twice as hard to get half as much.
When I heard this 80 cents number thrown around (research has suggested that women make an average of 80 cents for every dollar a white male makes), I was upset. The more I heard it, though, the more infuriated I became, because it doesn't tell the whole story: this number does not take into account that the average for women of color is often much lower! Women of color need to be included in the salary gap conversation. Point, blank, period!
Today has been designated as **[Black Women’s Equal Pay Day]**. The wage gap is a persistent issues that harms women, the ones they lov
I recently had the pleasure of speaking to Aliya Allen, the founder of Women of Color for Progress (WCP), an organization committed to encouraging more Women of Color to be involved in the political system. Aliya, who joins the ranks of other amazing women before her, co-founded a platform to provide resources for those who have been limited in their communities. WCP aims to create “an inclusive and transparent political system that empowers women of color to excel, lead, represent, and be heard.”
Here’s what Aliya Allen had to say about creating the platform, role models, dinner guests, and what’s next for her and the organization...
Recently, I was at Marshalls buying candles. (Don't judge me - they have the best candles.) In addition my candles, I also ended up buying this sign that said: “Follow Your Dreams For They Know The Way.”
It got me thinking: there was a time in our lives where we dreamed so big that no one could bring us back down to earth. Somewhere between “adulting” and disappointment, though, we changed the way we dream. So many of us ignore our dreams, or limit what we think we can do.
We don’t allow ourselves the space to get crazy, audacious, and ambitious.
“Women aren’t afraid of money, we have to learn how to establish a new relationship with it. Money is sexy.”
A colleague said this to me once, and I couldn’t agree more, sister! It’s important to empower women around financial literacy. Last week, we told you how to start investing. In the final part of our series, we want to share 8 terms every woman should know once you’re ready to start investing.