...It's just like in your career -- what would you do if your career went from zero to 100--real quick? You know...When your boss sends you an email saying, they need you take over this huge meeting tomorrow, because they can’t make it. Or your colleague can no longer go on the senior staff trip to Europe, and suggests that you go in her place. Would you be ready or reactive? There is a major difference between the two.
There has been a lot of discussion around sexual harassment in the workplace. Many women in the tech industry have come forward to share their stories of investors crossing the line. Unfortunately, I know that so many women have dealt with unwanted advances at some point in their lives. I happened to know one of the women who recently told her story in the New York Times. I remember looking on Twitter - there were women applauding her, women criticizing her, and women who stayed out of the conversation entirely. There is a lot of stigma around “telling your truth.
Like many of us, I have encountered unwanted advances in the workplace, and there were so many times I tried to sweep those advances under the rug or convinced myself they "didn’t mean any harm!"
With so many influential people – good and bad -- in the world today, we mustn’t forget about those special women who have fought long and hard to advance so many others. We can get distracted with so much that is going on in the world, and we might feel there is not much we can do to enact change.
Here's a list of influential women of color who have changed the game (and who continue to change the game) for all of us. Here’s hoping their stories guide your brain waves to the awesomeness these brilliant women are radiating.
Let’s face it, no one likes applying for jobs; it’s intimidating, labor-intensive, and tends to draw on our deepest insecurities-so obviously we only throw ourselves into the competitive fighting pits when we have to. But that’s also why the best time to look for jobs is when you don’t have to, while you're gainfully employed.
If you missed last week's After 6, the FOMO was real.
We had the pleasure of talking with actress, comedian, and producer, Amanda Seales. Miss Seales dropped some serious gems on us, and answered all of your questions.
In case you missed it, we've got you covered. Watch below as Seales discusses: career longevity, self-worth ("If you can't get the yes from other people, get the yes from within"), the recent events in Charlottesville ("Silence is not an option"), being a better ally by doing your homework (“Don’t come to the barbeque without a dish”), negotiation, her #Sealhive, and people that inspire her. And you definitely do not want to miss her Tiffany Haddish pep talk!
Watch the entire thing below:
You can catch Amanda Seales on Sunday nights on HBO's Insecure, at her live comedy show, Smart, Funny, & Black in Los Angeles, and on her upcoming college stand-up tour.
This summer, I traveled to Tokyo. I was on my way to a cafe for breakfast, and saw these two kids (pictured above) killin it on their buddy game! It immediately made me think about "My Buddy and Me" (ha ha), and then it inspired me to share this story with you.
I remember in my early elementary days our teacher introduced “the buddy system.” You had a buddy to hang out with at recess or hold hands with on upcoming field trips. Essentially, you had someone who was supposed to have your back.
I didn’t start out planning to be a single, working mother. In fact, I grew up imagining a huge family: meeting the man of my dreams in college and getting married soon after; I’d have my first child of five by the time I was 24, and then start my career as a stay-at-home mom. Easy. No worries.
Except, the old adage that life doesn’t usually work out the way we plan… it applies more often than not.
By definition, the word *invisible* means unable to be seen, or not visible to the eye.
As a black woman in the workplace, there have been times I have been made to feel invisible. Growing up, so many of us are told we need to work twice as hard to get half as much.
When I heard this 80 cents number thrown around (research has suggested that women make an average of 80 cents for every dollar a white male makes), I was upset. The more I heard it, though, the more infuriated I became, because it doesn't tell the whole story: this number does not take into account that the average for women of color is often much lower! Women of color need to be included in the salary gap conversation. Point, blank, period!
Today has been designated as **[Black Women’s Equal Pay Day]**. The wage gap is a persistent issues that harms women, the ones they lov
I recently had the pleasure of speaking to Aliya Allen, the founder of Women of Color for Progress (WCP), an organization committed to encouraging more Women of Color to be involved in the political system. Aliya, who joins the ranks of other amazing women before her, co-founded a platform to provide resources for those who have been limited in their communities. WCP aims to create “an inclusive and transparent political system that empowers women of color to excel, lead, represent, and be heard.”
Here’s what Aliya Allen had to say about creating the platform, role models, dinner guests, and what’s next for her and the organization...
Recently, I was at Marshalls buying candles. (Don't judge me - they have the best candles.) In addition my candles, I also ended up buying this sign that said: “Follow Your Dreams For They Know The Way.”
It got me thinking: there was a time in our lives where we dreamed so big that no one could bring us back down to earth. Somewhere between “adulting” and disappointment, though, we changed the way we dream. So many of us ignore our dreams, or limit what we think we can do.
We don’t allow ourselves the space to get crazy, audacious, and ambitious.
“Women aren’t afraid of money, we have to learn how to establish a new relationship with it. Money is sexy.”
A colleague said this to me once, and I couldn’t agree more, sister! It’s important to empower women around financial literacy. Last week, we told you how to start investing. In the final part of our series, we want to share 8 terms every woman should know once you’re ready to start investing.
By: Daniella Saldana, Staff Writer, The Memo
Getting ready for the hot, hot summer? So are we! We're not just talking about chugging ice water and sitting next to the AC -- we're also preparing to make this summer our most productive one yet.
Looking to stay cool and productive this summer? Here some things to do:
Enroll In A Course: It’s important to stay busy this summer. Whether you’re busy on vacation or busy working, make this summer a productive one. It's the perfect time to take a class in a subject you've always meant to learn, or enroll in a professional development course to up your career game (psst, have you tried one of our career boot camps?). For those still in school, this is the prime time for getting experience in your field by looking for internships. Learn now what you need to and you’ll be thankful you did.
Attend A Local Event in Your Town (i.e. state fairs, music festivals, flea markets): No matter which state you live in, it's likely your state is hosting an epic summer event -- you just have to look for it! You can access your hometown and/or state homepage to see what's happening this summer and when. They are typically inexpensive, fun, and they are also a great way to support local businesses.
Learn a new Language : There are so many benefits of being multilingual. Apps like Duolingo give you the freedom to search for any language you would want to learn. Whether you are preparing for a trip abroad or just simply want to learn something new, let this summer be the summer you became fluent in Spanish, or French, or Mandarin. The limit does not exist to what you could do this summer!
See A Play or Visit The Museum: Check out Todaytix for hot deals on Broadway plays (ahem, Hamilton tickets), local plays, and everything in between. You can also keep it local and check out your town’s community theatre. Perhaps you’ll be inspired by the theatre world and you can get involved!
You can also check out your local museum's website (they may offer discounts). Museums are not only educational, but also inspiring, and sometimes unusual. You never know what you will find!
Read, Read, Read: There are some REALLY good movies you could watch this summer, but I prefer to read the books before I watch the movie. If you liked movies like Gone Girl or Girl on the Train, check out Into the Water by Paula Hawkins. For something different, check out The Answers by Catherine Lacey. For my personal recommendation, check out The Couple Next Door by Shari Lapena.
Start a Garden : Start your own garden this summer. It’s a positive way to reinforce healthy eating habits. You also know exactly where your food is coming from, and best of all it's fairly inexpensive (you're paying for the seeds and supplies.) Compared to the grocery store, you are saving so much more than those coupons can offer.
Pick Up A New Hobby: Broaden your horizons this summer or just try something you’ve always wanted to do. It’s never too late to learn something new. Try photography, creative writing, running, birdwatching, surfing, camping, stamp-collecting, scrapbooking – anything that catches your attention. Explore what you could get into. Who knows, you might be REALLY good at it.
Set Personal Goals: Above all else, the best way to keep cool this summer is to live as happy and healthy as you can, whatever that may mean to you. Whether you want to improve yourself for your career, or improve an aspect of your personal life, now is as good a time as any to set yourself on the path to success. Create realistic goals (weekly) that are easy to achieve but that challenge you for the better.
I used to be one of those people who thought I could never invest because I wasn’t rich. After reading several investment books, I quickly realized that I was completely wrong. You don’t have to be rich to invest at all. The only thing you need is patience and a little self-control, and luckily, both of those don’t cost a thing! I started investing with less than $100. If you feel broke now, it’s a good bet you don’t want to feel the same way 20 years from now.
Here are some things that helped me along the way...
Do you have enough money saved for your future #goals? If the answer is no, or if you aren’t really sure, you aren’t alone -- just 45% of the 62 million working women (aged 21-64) in the U.S. participate in a retirement plan. Women are more likely to do part-time work that doesn’t come with a retirement plan. We also earn less on average, and leave the workforce at a higher rate to care for small children or aging relatives.
Especially if you’re young, you may think that savings and retirement planning is something for “Future You” to worry about. However, the best time to start saving is now!
With this in mind, we asked women: **What is something you wish you knew sooner about saving?**
We all know that both goal setting and vision boarding are important and helpful. So why is it that so many of us either don't take the time to set our goals, or that we struggle accomplishing the goals we set for ourselves?
As a team, we've recently started setting and sharing goals together every Monday morning. While we're all big to do list people in our office, and we set goals individually, the group exercise has been very helpful to the team dynamic.
Posted up in my office are the following words: Hopeful, Fun, Relentless, Committed, Successful, and Confident
Every time I look up from my computer, I see these six words staring me in the face. On days when I don’t feel confident, these words speak life to me. On days that don't seem successful, these words breathe life into me.
What words, phrases, or quotes breath life into you?
Oftentimes, we are grinding and hustling so hard that we can feel trapped in life's perpetual "hamster wheel." That wheel where we can’t stop, won’t "stop 'til you get enough," or do enough. That wheel makes us run so fast because we want to prove all the haters wrong.
by: The Memo Staff
This past Thursday, in partnership with our friends at Shutterstock and Miss Jessie's, The Memo hosted its first annual Women of Resilience Awards in the Empire State Building. It was a great night, where we honored three amazing women -- Natalie Cofield, Founder and CEO of Walker's Legacy, Tanya Selvaratnam, writer, actor, producer, and activist, and Miko Branch, the Co-Founder and CEO of Miss Jessie's.
These women encouraged, inspired, and motivated us. They are business owners, speakers, authors, producers, award winners, and activists, and we were proud to have a little of their magic sprinkled on us.
In case you missed it, here are some of our favorite photos from the event:
(Photos via: Sergio Santos)
Be sure to check out highlights and some inspirational gems from the Twitter feed.
As special thank you to the following partners, speakers, and organizations: Shutterstock; Miss Jessie's; Brittney Oliver, Lemons 2 Lemonade; Angelina Darrisaw, C-Suite Coach; Gabrielle Brown, NYC Bar Diversity.
I know how hard it can be to be a single, working mother. Not because I am one, but because I was raised by one. My parents divorced when I was very young, and I grew up with my mother, a rebellious older sister and an autistic younger brother. I am not sure how she did it, but my mom managed to raise the three of us, work, and keep food on the table when things got painfully tough. She wasn’t perfect, but in the end she shaped me into who I am today. She’s shown me how strong a woman can be. She’s shown me that if it feels the odds are against you, still try your hardest, and things just may work in your favor. Most importantly, she’s shown me that I could go after what I want in life and not be afraid of having to do it all on my own.
This past Friday, we discussed "work-life balance" as part of our monthly #memocareerchats on Twitter. This month, we were joined by Kateri Broussard, Respiratory Speciality Representative at Astrazenica. She is also the District Director of College Chapters for Kappa Alpha Theta, a wife, a mentor, and a mother of two young boys. We discussed a number of topics, including work-life balance, self-care, coming back from maternity leave, and having the right support system. #teamworkmakesthedreamwork.